Introduction to BDSM Gear – Keeping it Light and Fun

Introduction

If you are reading this article, I am going to assume that you are new to BDSM and bondage toys.  The whole idea of BDSM is to exert dominance over your partner by adding a bit of danger using sensory deprivation and the anticipation of both pleasure and pain. The fear of being controlled and dominated  heightens the senses.  The fear and sensation of pain can release endorphins similar to what you feel after our workout or when you have an orgasm.

To start with, you will want to experiment with BDSM toys such as restraints, which evoke a sense of domination, control and fear.  Blindfolds are an essential BDSM tool using sensory deprivation to remove your partner’s sense of sight and thereby heightening their other senses, especially their sense of touch.  Now you can play upon that heightened sense of touch using a variety of toys such as ticklers, paddles and nearly any other sex toys to bring a sense of both pleasure and pain to the party.  

This short but very informative video will outline 5 great ways to dip a toe into BDSM to see what it’s like and experiment with dom/sub play:

1. Velcro Restraints
2. Role Play
3. Sensation Play – feather duster, ice cube, foods. Sensory deprivation – ear plugs or loud music, mask
4. Spanking – Impact play, whips, paddles
5. Power Exchange – collar and leash (dom/sub).  This can be a moving and life-change experience.

Please spend a few minutes to checkout this video to better understand how BDSM works and how you can engage in it to increase your level of bedroom fun:

Once you have a sense of what you are getting yourself into, it’s time to checkout the toys you’ll need to get this BDSM party started.

Bondage Boutique Seduce Me Lover’s Bed Bondage Kit (4 Piece)

$74.99

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Summary

If you are looking to get started in BDSM, you certainly don’t need to spend a lot of money.  A BDSM starter kit is the ideal way to kick off the fun.  This kit has everything you need.  This is gear is high-quality, has a luxurious look and feel and is appealing to the eye.  It’s also very easy to use for beginners.  You don’t need to learn about tying knots or how to get your partner into a restraint.  And even better, the velcro arm and leg restraints are velcro making it safe and comfortable while providing complete restraint of your partner.

Details

This kit is made of high quality leather and while beautiful and comfortable, it is also strong ensuring a reliable restraint system

• Nylon “under-the-mattress” bed full-body restraint system large enough to work with any standard size bed frame up to King Size
• Comfortable and easy to use velcro arm and leg cuffs lined with ultra-soft faux fur for comfort.  Each cuff  easily clip on to the bed restraint system or can even be used independently to bound only the arms or only the legs
• The ball gag has a 9-hole buckle making it easy and comfortable to fasten with a 5.5 inch ball made from silicone.  The strap is made from a beautiful metallic faux leather and rose gold giving it both a sheik and luxurious aesthetic
• The blindfold is made from the same beautiful metallic faux leather and rose gold and is lined with ultra-soft fuzz making it both comfortable and functional depriving your partner of their visual senses during play
• The flogger is also made from a beautiful metallic faux leather and rose gold giving it both a sheik and luxurious aesthetic with faux black leather multi-strand whip allowing you to easily create the shock and awe associated with the sound of whipping without causing too much pain or marks on your partner

Why it is amazing

This kit has everything you need to make your first BDSM experiences 50 Shades of AMAZING!! You can use the restraints in several ways including as a full bed restraint tying your partner spread eagle face up or face down.  Or, these restraints can be used to tie your partner to the headboard, hog tie them or to only restrain only your partner’s arms or legs.   Where the restraints evoke a sense of fear, the blindfold removes the sense of sight making every touch and sensation a surprise.  The ball gag and flogger add still another dimension of fear and anticipation.  The possibilities are literally endless as you step into this new world.

PRO TIP:  Adding sex toys to your BDSM play takes it NEXT LEVEL…especially when you use the mask and your partner doesn’t know what’s cumming next ??

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Lovehoney Luxury Bondage Kit (7 Piece)

$49.99

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Summary

If you are looking to add a touch of delicate elegance and sheer class to your “Red Room” fun, this 7 piece BDSM starter kit brings the soft touch of satin-feel restraints to the party.  While it is certainly Next Level in terms of the look and feel, you should understand that this kit involves a bit more work to properly use.  Instead of velcro cuffs, you have satin-feel restraints that you must tie yourself.  But don’t worry, it’s easy.  Please watch this short 2 minute video on how to tie silk or satin restraints before your first use as silk can be difficult to untie when the wrong types of knots are used.

Details

This kit is made of beautiful red satin-feel material which is also strong enough to ensure a reliable restraint system

• Set of 4 satin-feel restraints provide comfortable leg and arm bondage restraints that you can either tie together or to a bed post or other piece of furniture.
• Contains a delicately soft red feather tickler to awaking the nerves and senses of your blindfolded partner during play
• The glossy pliable blindfold comfortably and completely deprives your partner from their sense of sight adding a playful and exciting feeling of sensory deprivation to your BDSM fun
• The faux suede and leather flogger allows you to experiment with beginner level impact play in a fun and safe way, while still providing the wow factor with the sound and sharp feel of a whip

Why it is amazing

What I really love about this kit is how simple and elegant it is.  There is nothing high-tech here.  It requires your partner to take the time to delicately tie each and every restraint adding a level of slow build-up to the fun.  In a strange way, having each knot tied separately makes me feel “taken care of” and looked after…like a well-loved pet. ?  I also love the way the satin-feel restraints feel against my body.  I feel both classy and naughty.  

PRO TIP:  This is a great starter set to couple with leather accessories.  There is something about black leather and red satin that screams NEXT LEVEL NAUGHTY ?

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Bondage Boutique White Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraint

$44.99

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Summary

Bed restraints provide many advantages over other restraint systems.  They are strong.  They are simple to use.  They use your existing bed, so you do not need specialized furniture or room to create a restraint bed. They are discrete in that you can leave them under the bed and out of sight until playtime!!   These bed restraints offer all the simplicity and ease (no knot tying needed here)  of cuff bed restraints with all of the beauty and elegance of satin.  Personally, I love the white satin look to this set.

Details

These bed restraints will allow you to quickly, discretely and easily transform  your everyday bed into your very own BDSM sex chamber.  These restraints can be used in several different configurations.  You can use them as corner-to-corner bed restraints tying your partner’s arms and legs spread eagle face up or face down.  You can also tie your partner to the headboard, hog tie them or to only restrain only your partner’s arms or legs. There are 4 velcro-fastening cuffs for your partner’s arms and legs that have the look and feel of satin, but do not require any fancy knots to use.  Finally, this restraint system is big enough for pretty much any bed size including super-size king beds.

Why it is amazing

The reason I love this set in particular is because of how luxurious it looks and feels.  It looks and feels nearly identical to satin, yet it’s far easier to restrain and unrestrain your partner.  I strongly believe that the way a sex toy or tool looks and feels is just as important as how it functions.  This set gets 2 hands tied behind my back in both categories.  

PRO TIP:  I have had some of my most memorable BDSM experiences while masked and restrained while my partner surprised me by using different sex toys on me.  WOW!!!  ???

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Lovehoney Oh! Satin Blindfold

$7.99

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Summary

In my very experienced opinion, masks are nothing less than THE MOST IMPORTANT tool in BDSM play.  The reason is, we as humans rely so much on our sense of sight to anticipate what is coming.  To have your sense of sight removed is not only a bit scary, but it also forces your brain to rely on it’s other senses to compensate.  Specifically, your sense of touch becomes heightened.  You anticipate that you will eventually be touched.  But when?  By what?  In what area will you be touched?  Will it be a pleasurable touch?  Or a slightly painful touch?  Will it be something cold or warm?  It is this sense of anticipation that sensory deprivation that amplifies your senses and makes each touch feel like you are being touched for the first time.

Details

This mask is silky, sexy and feels just like satin providing complete deprivation of your sense of sight.  It is a blackout mask so you will have absolutely no visual sense of your surroundings.  The faux fur-lined back provides another layer of comfort and decadence as well as maximum comfort.  

Why it is amazing

If you don’t believe that masks are the most important item in your BDSM arsenal, try playing with your partner using only a mask.  My partner will place the mask on me, turn on some music and from that point, absolutely everything he does to me is a welcome surprise.  

PRO TIP:  For next level fun, place a mask and restraints on your partner and turn on a little music.  And then, just wait and let her anticipate what is coming next.  Her mind will be filled with a sense of anticipation…and her vagina, a sense of wetness ??

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Fetish Fantasy Frisky Red Feather Tickler

$16.99

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Summary

Did you know that there is a direct relationship between orgasms and being tickled?  Think about it?  Both are unconscious and uncontrollable reflexes to being touched in a specific place in a specific way.  That is why ticklers are so much fun in BDSM play.  And the very best way to use a tickler is when your partner is restrained and masked and has no idea where or when or what is to come.

Details

This fun and lavish feather tickler is a perfect BDSM toy to stimulate your partner’s sense of touch.  The red and black feathers keep true to the BDSM black and red motif.  This toy will awaken your partner’s nerve endings creating a heightened sensitivity to touch. The 6” leather wrapped handle adds a touch of elegance and provides additional reach.

Why it is amazing

This will wreak havoc on your partners anticipation as you alternate the touch and tickles of a feather tickler with a paddle, a whip or a hand spanking, sex toy or your own body touches.

PRO TIP:  When used gently on your partner’s sensitive areas…nipples, vagina, ass, cock…you will send the most unique and crazy sensations through your partner’s body.  Remember, it only takes a VERY light touch when your partner is blindfolded.

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Lovehoney Satin and Leather Spanking Paddle

$19.99

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Summary

Impact play toys are naughty and fun and step up the level of BDSM fun for any couple.  They provide impact play sound.  They create a sense of anticipation.  They inflict small amounts of pain that when done properly mimic the feeling of an orgasm.  There is absolutely no doubt who is the dom and who is the sub when one partner is spanking the other with a paddle LOL ??

Details

This spanking paddle is soft, red and beautifully naughty.  It is crafted from satin and black leather giving it some weight and allowing it to make a fantastic WHALLOP when applied to the backside of your sex partner.  Furthermore, this toy has 2 sides. One side is made from soothing satin and the other a firm, smooth leather allowing you to vary the sensations you inflict during use.

Why it is amazing

What I love about a good beginners level BDSM paddle is the same thing I love about good theater.  They make you believe something that you are witnessing with your own eyes and while it seems SO INCREDIBLY REAL, you know it’s more for show than anything else.  This paddle looks the part.  It’s red and long and wide and looks like it could do some damage. It’s crafted from soft leather and satin material.  It looks menacing.  And when it strikes the meat on your seat, it makes a distinct SMACKING sound that is unmistakable and shocking.  Yet, the reality is that you won’t be able to inflict any real damage with this impact toy.  This makes it the ideal paddle for a BDSM newbie.

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Summary

I think this statement from a BDSM first-timer says it all:

“The second my boyfriend put the blindfold on me, everything changed. Every other sense is heightened, I was so aware of every light touch. “

In its simplest form, this is what BDSM play is all about.  Using a sense of power and control to take over the senses of another person evoking fear, pain, pleasure and ultimately orgasm.  This is merely the starting point.  If you delve into the world of BDSM and dip your toe in the water using all or some of the toys in this article and you enjoy it, then the doors are wide open for you to step in to the next levels.  That’s where the fun really starts, the play becomes more decadent and the toys can help you take it all to the next level.

If you are ready to advance to intermediate BDSM play, read on to my next naughty BDSM article.

Happy Orgasms Ladies ?